Is there a reason why many men give up on dating and relationships? Is the dating scene difficult for them?
13.06.2025 00:10
One thing I observed when studying dating is that we really arent thought how to date. We also arent though what is a relationship l, what it means to be married etc. Its no wonder so many relationships fail. They simply don't know what they should be doing. One person is expecting one thing and another person thinks is something else and that aint going to.work. same thing with dating. How do you date? Thats bot an easy question to answer. Since nobody teaches you and are left for you to figure it out we stimble a lot.
Also, luck has to do with it. My wife has beennhanging out with 2 friends. My wife always get looked at and hot on. The 3nd girl also has no issues getting dates and is always in and out of new one although she isnt the norrm as she swings both ways. Now, the 3rd woman has very little luck. She has a hard time scoring a date and when she does the guys don't stay long. My guess is the way she dresses as in just nothibg to stand out. O dont hang out with her friends often but the few times that I have she seems very likeable. Very funny, very smart. Not the prettiest but not ugky either. On paper she should not have this hard a time. So we cant figure out what the deal is. Reminds me of some comedian that said some men have this thing where they attract every women while I have the antidote. So, some people simply dont attravt other people even though they arent ugly, bad mannered etc. Its just plays put that way.
I'm been married for 20 years now but there was a time when I had a very hard time dating. Long story short the issie was me but, I worked on it and now looking back it all makes sense and does.seem.cery silly. Anyways thats a storu for another day that is not part of your question. The thing is that you can only fail so many times before you give up. There was a time when I did just that. O got tired of being turned down or the vetu annoying getting a date only for them to cancel at the very last minute. There came a point when I said to myself ok I'm just burned to a crisp on this so I'm going tomtake a break all together. I'm not even going to try. Not only that I'm going to completely avoid the whole thing. And I did. Then agter I graduated college I moved to a different dtate so I said well, maybe its time to try again but this time I'm going to study the subject matter like I did in college. There I discovered of my issues and thats when things turned better. I met my wife and here we are. The thing too is that I'm stubborn about gettiny something so I'm often know to keep on going when everyone else already given up. Not on everything ofcourse but often. So I can see how people would completely give up on dating. I gave up for a while but becaue.O'm.stuborn I gave it another go. Anyone else wouldn't
Dating on general is difficult. My evidence is that its a multi billion dollar industry. If it was easy there wouldnt be so many books, podcasts, coaching, apps etc etc.Of you are having a hard time in tue dating wolrd you arent alone. In fact you would be the norm.
Age plays a.huge factor too. Your wants and need change with age meaning that getting turned down in highschool seems like a big deal in highschool but as an older adult the reason given are silly and childish. People look for different things at different ages. Meaning dont give up because you were not the number 1 choice when young. That wqs a different time.